The collective moaning and groaning about Harvey Weinstein goes on and on and grows louder and louder as more and more people jump on the bandwagon.
But no one seems to be asking the right question: Why was he allowed to continue his sick behavior for so many years? I would be willing to bet dollars to donuts that most people in the entertainment industry, the press and many political leaders were all aware of his out of control sexual appetite. Yet, it was allowed to go on for years and years.
Now that it has come out into the open, the crowd gathers around, picks up stones and starts throwing them with all their might. Hmm, reminds me of a story about a wise man who found himself standing before a hate-filled crowd ready to throw stones. He simply said, “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.” As his words sunk in, one by one they dropped the stones and walked away.
But today the stones are flying. And it is those who enabled Weinstein’s actions for so many years that are throwing the hardest.
What we all need to think about is how did Weinstein become this monster who felt totally justified in using his position to use and abuse women.
He became that man because of the society we have created. Just as those in the entertainment industry, the press and the politicians enabled Harvey Weinstein, our society has been Dr. Frankenstein creating oh so many monsters. And we all stand by and let it happen. We are all enablers (enabler, noun: one who enables another to persist in self-destructive behavior, such as substance abuse, by providing excuses or by making it possible to avoid the consequences of such behavior).
We have enabled our society to become one in which pornography is not only accepted, it is on our TV screens. What was considered pornography when I was young (I am 63 years old) is on TV screens today and is considered completely normal and acceptable viewing.
Pornography is everywhere today because it is on smartphones. Children are being exposed to pornography at younger and younger ages on school playgrounds because of smartphones.
Some might be shaking their heads and wondering why this old fogey is talking about pornography. They might think porn is harmless.
I beg to differ. Porn probably turned Weinstein in to the monster he became. Porn plants in its victim’s mind the idea that women are simply a source of short-term pleasure. Objects to be used and thrown away. Because they begin seeing women in this way, it is very difficult for them to build a true relationship with a woman. They live in a fantasy world where women do what I want, when I want.
The real world is not like that. So, they continue living in their fantasy world to get their ‘real’ pleasure elsewhere because a wife will never live up to that fantasy world.
And when a man like that becomes successful and has power and authority, he can become a monster. Our society has given him that permission through the self-centered, individualistic messages that it transmits day and night. “Get what you want when you want”; “if it feels good, do it”; “there is no right or wrong, we’re free to do what we want”; etc., etc., etc.
And to all those expressing their righteous indignation about Harvey Weinstein…Where was your righteous indignation when Bill Clinton was playing sexual games with a young White House intern? Where was your righteous indignation when ‘50 Shades of Grey’ encouraged acts which put women in the position of passive victims to men’s desire for domination? Where was your righteous indignation when characters in ‘Game of Thrones’ behaved exactly like Harvey Weinstein?
Drop your stones and do a little soul-searching. We are all guilty of enabling a society which allowed Harvey Weinstein to become what he is.